As well as involving your toddler in parts of your pregnancy, a book can also help them start to understand what’s going to happen. We like Hello Baby, which brings in ideas about birth and a new addition to the family.
Your toddler’s only going to understand so much, so don’t worry about over explaining. Excitement about a new baby varies and that’s normal, it’s just about gauging your child.
If you think your older child will be freaked out by being and seeing you in hospital, save that first meeting for when you’re home. Toddlers can also find newborn belly buttons strange with the cord stump, so perhaps have your baby in a diaper and dressed.
Have that first sibling get-together when your toddler’s happy and not too tired (read: grouchy). It’s important for you to be calm. So if you think you’d feel more relaxed waiting another day, then do that.
Your two little ones meeting is a big moment, but try to not make it feel like that for your toddler. Little ones tend to be interested in this first introduction, but keeping the pressure off will help him not feel too unsettled.
Whether it’s your toddler being overly affectionate with their sibling or the other way around. Toddlers are heavy handed with most things. Some may hit or pinch the new baby – it’s not nasty or naughty behaviour, just feeling unsure. Supervise their time together and perhaps use a carrier or sling with the baby.
For the first hold, start with you all on the sofa or in bed together. Ask your child if they actually want a hold and respect their wishes if they say no. But if they do, lay the baby on them in a way that you don’t need to worry about baby’s head being supported, or even try a breastfeeding cushion.
This will help that business-as-usual idea to take your child through the change. It may be tempting to keep them off nursery or school, especially if your partner’s off, too. But actually it’s better to keep their routine as normal as possible.
Some regression in your toddler’s behaviour is to be expected around this time, whether it’s with sleep, playing up, or potty training. It can happen after a few weeks as he realizes the new baby is a permanent part of the family. It’s just part of the process as he gets used to things.
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