You’ve tackled the practical side by securing a great nursery with suitable hours. Now, it’s the emotional handover stage. Regardless of your child’s nursery schedule, feeling a tad anxious is perfectly normal. Starting nursery is a significant change for both you and your little one. We won’t sugarcoat it – there might be some tears, likely more from you than your child. So, how can you make the transition smoother? Grab some tissues, take a deep breath, and embrace our 10-point settling-in plan.

1. Lay the Foundation. If your toddler isn’t accustomed to being around other adults and children, consider introducing them to such experiences. Frequent visits to toddler groups, soft-play centers, larger playgrounds, and playdates with friends can help ease the transition.

2. Nurture Nursery Conversations. Engage your child in conversations about the wonderful nursery they’ll soon attend. While it’s hard to gauge their comprehension, using a positive and cheerful tone when mentioning “nursery” can establish favorable associations. Plus, it will boost your own confidence in the process! If the nursery is conveniently close by, consider incorporating daily walks with your toddler. This provides an opportunity to point out the nursery. If your walks align with the nursery’s outdoor playtime, it’s even better – witnessing other toddlers having fun can be quite reassuring. Additionally, you can engage in nursery-themed reading with your child. There are numerous wonderful books tailored for this purpose, offering a comforting portrayal of the typical nursery day. Cozy up on the sofa together and explore the detailed pictures depicting the various activities that toddlers enjoy at nursery.

3. Share Valuable Information with Nursery Staff. The more details you provide to the nursery staff, the better they can understand and care for your child. Different nurseries may gather this information in various ways, such as paper forms, online questionnaires, or one-on-one discussions. Regardless of the method, be thorough. Share your child’s preferences, dietary habits, nap schedule (if any), fears, and progress with potty training. This comprehensive insight helps create a tailored and comfortable environment.

4. Dress for Convenience. Opt for clothing that your child can easily put on and take off, especially if they are in the process of toilet training. Velcro-fastening shoes are more practical than lace-up ones, requiring less adult assistance. Keep in mind that nursery often involves messy play, so avoid dressing your child in brand-new or cherished outfits.

5. Allocate Adequate Time. Settling into nursery is a gradual process, not a one or two-day affair. Clear your schedule for several days, as it involves a transitional period. Initially, you will need to spend time with your child at the nursery, gradually extending the duration you are away from them. Be prepared to spend time in a nearby coffee shop, anxiously checking your phone until you’re due back.

6. Trust Your Child’s Nursery Staff. While you know your child best, the nursery staff are experts in the settling-in process. Allow your child’s nursery staff to set the pace and adapt the transition to suit your child’s needs.

7. Project Confidence. Your child is more likely to feel secure if they see you looking calm and confident, even if you’re anxious inside. Your child takes emotional cues from you.

8. Comfort with Transitional Objects. If your child has a favorite toy or blanket, consider bringing it to nursery initially. This provides a comforting piece of home and can become a helpful ritual in preparing your child for the day ahead.

9. Leave Promptly. When it’s time to depart, do so without hesitation. Don’t start to leave and then return, but also avoid sneaking out. Say a cheerful goodbye with a kiss and a smile. You can shed a tear or two once you’re out of earshot. Remember, tears signify sadness at your departure, not a dislike for nursery.

10. Build Connections. Don’t hesitate to introduce yourself to other parents and caregivers at the nursery. Establishing connections with fellow parents can lead to valuable friendships and provide a support network for future pick-up and drop-off arrangements. Consider organizing playdates or park outings with other children and their caregivers to foster bonding and comfort among the nursery attendees.

Additional Tips for a Settled Child:

• Foster effective communication with nursery staff, building a positive relationship and addressing any concerns collaboratively.
• Be prepared for occasional wobbles in your child’s settling process; it’s normal and doesn’t necessarily indicate poor care.
• Arrange backup plans for sick days when you can’t stay home with your child or when you’re unwell but your child can still attend nursery.
• Avoid nitpicking over minor issues; focus on the overall happiness of your child and the quality of care.
• Continuously assess your child’s needs and consider whether a change in nursery is warranted for their evolving developmental stage. Change, when necessary, can be beneficial for the right reasons.